coming out

Come Out, Come Out, Wherever You Are

On several occasions, I’ve been asked why I’m so open about the fact that I am a transgender woman. No, I’m not walking down the street with a sign on my back that tells people that I lived the first 26 years of my life publicly identifying as a male, but I am very open […]

By |August 26th, 2013|Uncategorized|3 Comments

My Debut: Coming Out Trans – And Happy

By |August 23rd, 2013|Uncategorized|2 Comments

One year back

It’s been nearly a year since I came out as trans to anyone. The days leading up to coming out were some of the most intensely stressful times in my life.

I felt tired and scared. The thought of losing everything in my life for a chance to be myself was too much to even fully […]

By |May 21st, 2013|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Don’t out me, bro

Coming out as transgender, no matter how many times you do it, is emotionally trying. At this point, I’ve come out to upwards of 200 people I knew in person pre-transition. The mechanics of it are simple enough: say to someone, “so, there’s something I’d like to share with you. I’m transgender.”

Easy enough, right?

Here’s where […]

By |April 17th, 2013|Personal|1 Comment

[what a week]

Wow! What a week this was. 0 to 60 in no time. It really got started last Tuesday at my annual performance review at work.

I went into this review thinking, “well, as least once this is over with, I won’t have to worry about me being trans affecting the review.” I received an extremely […]

By |February 2nd, 2013|Personal|1 Comment

[coming out to my hair stylist, getting my first feminine cut]

My hair was starting to look kind of goofy. I’ve been growing it out since April without a cut. Rather than looking like something long and feminine, it was starting to just look like, well, like a boy’s cut that had just grown unruly.

So, yesterday I decided to go in to the place I […]

By |December 6th, 2012|Personal|1 Comment

[came out to my parents as trans via e-mail. here’s my e-mail & my dad’s response.]

My e-mail to my parents:

Sometimes I am absolutely terrible with articulating my words on important issues. And as I won’t see you for Thanksgiving ( and I are going to spend it with her family this year), I felt like this was the right time to send this. I ask that you reply to […]

By |November 15th, 2012|Personal|4 Comments

[and let the “coming out tour” begin]

In the past two days, I’ve come out to a total of 3 people: my brother, a cis male former co-worker, and a cis female friend of mine from college.

All responses have been universally positive.

For weeks, I’ve been trying to tell my brother, going so far as to tell him I’ve been meeting up at […]

By |October 26th, 2012|Personal|0 Comments

[superhero secret identities]

Earlier this week, I was at work, sitting in our morning meeting. I had torn a contact lens that morning, so I was wearing my glasses. I tend not to wear my glasses all that often (staring at a computer for 8 hours in my glasses is no fun), and I guess this was the […]

By |September 27th, 2012|Personal|0 Comments

You’re the pride and joy of Illinois

My parents were in town earlier in the week for dinner. As much as I want to just pull off the “coming out” band-aid, I’m struggling to. They made a couple comments about my hair being long (it’s longer than it’s probably ever been), and while […]

By |August 18th, 2012|Personal|0 Comments