I got doxed

I recently learned a new word: “doxing” (or “doxxing”)

What is doxing? According to Urban Dictionary, it’s…

…a technique of tracing someone or gather information about an individual using sources on the internet. Its name is derived from “Documents” or “Docx”. Doxing method is based purely on the ability of the hacker to recognize valuable information about his target and use this information to his benefit. It is also based around the idea that, “The more you know about your target, the easier it will be to find his or her flaws”

On my now-closed reddit account, I received 3 messages from a [deleted] account over the course of 24 hours, each more aggressively threatening than the last.

The first message was simply a link to my Facebook profile, which is set to only be accessible to friends. The 2nd was this:

xxxx xxxxx Mxxxxx [my birth name]
Sxxxxxx xxxxxxxx xxxxx [my current employer]
How’s xxxx, xxxxx and xxxxxxx? [my brother, father & mother’s names]
Do the parents still live at 2xxxx x xxxxxxxx xxxxx? [parents’ address]
http://i.imgur.com/xxxxxxxxx.jpg [picture of me, pre-transition]
xxxxxxxxxxx@gmail.com [my former e-mail address]

This is the text of the 3rd and final message:

I want you to know that there are people out there who think you are a fucking freak. You’re ugly as hell and need to be committed.

Why? Why would someone take the time and effort to dig up these personal details from my past and present? The fact that I’m transgender is not something I necessarily try to hide. Why would someone post information like the address  where I grew up, my parents’ names, old photos of me, and so on?

Also, does this individual believe that I don’t realize that there are “people out there who think [I’m] a fucking freak.”? Trust me, I know. “Ugly as hell,” maybe. “Need to be committed,” no.

There are a lot of trans women who call themselves activists. I don’t. All I do is write my little blog, document my transition, and update my social media sites. I’ve never been to a protest, and I make a conscious effort to not engage anti-trans folks online. I’m not bragging or proud of the fact that I sit on the sidelines for the more activist-y stuff; I’m just saying the truth of the extent of my activist work (which is slim-to-none).

I don’t understand how or why I’ve become a target, but honestly, the experience really does scare me. I’ve briefly spoken to police about this, been in contact with reddit’s legal department, and will likely be calling back to the police to file a report per reddit’s instructions. Reddit will be able to provide the police with information such as the user’s IP address, should the police subpoena it.

This isn’t really how I wanted to start my weekend, but I’m thankful for those out there who helped me piece together some basic information (how to contact reddit’s legal department, etc.).

Some have suggested that I should retaliate in some way. I am not going to do that. Absolutely not. What I am going to do is ask that the harassment ends with those messages.

I’m not trying to be anyone or anything I’m not. I openly acknowledge my trans history, and my online presence and influence is nearly non-existent. If you stumble across a blog post or a tweet or a Facebook post or a YouTube video of mine, just know that I truly do come in peace. I’m not here to fight anyone.

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5 comments

  1. rayehawk

    I regret that you’re being harassed. :o)

    Sending love and light.

  2. Aoife

    This is awful. I am so truly sorry. I don’t know what else I can offer you but moral support.

    Aoife

  3. I am so sorry that this happened. I can’t begin to say how sorry I am that you are scared. I want to say that it would never have occurred to me, coming across a “a blog post or a tweet or a Facebook post or a YouTube video” of yours that you came in anything other than peace.

  4. That’s so awful that someone is treating you this way. I think you’ve handled it very well in what you have described above. And I think you made a wise decision to avoid any such ‘retaliation’ schemes.

    Supporting you.

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